This is a contemplation i did while making the drawing beneath.
It's quite a long read and there is probably more to say in the end but this is it for now.
I hope it will make you think about the subject and please tell me what you think
Is there a connection between lust and love?
First i want to know what is "Love" and what is "Lust"?
In most relationships people think, if they have sex there is love thats why we say "making love" like love is something you create in that moment.
But is there a place for love within lust? Lust is a strong and powerful energy that is concerned with mostly itself, the orgasm as goal. With that orgasm new life is made possible, although humans are will not really notice this in the heat of the moment. Except when a couple wants to have children and therefore are having sex deliberately.
Is lust therefore nothing more then a build in energy that is only concerned with satisfying there own pleasures and/or reproduction?
Does that mean there is no love in making offspring for lust itself, will it just go on without concerning?
If it does concerns lust the drift for reproducing would disappear after reproducing; lets say a dozen or more children.
But that does not happen. But taking care for a dozen or more children is not something we like doing in most cases, even if you think children are great.
Running away from your responsibilities concerning children and there mothers is not done in western society these days and we usually do not want to either. Although in other cultures it can be normal for man not to be concerned with the upbringing of there offspring and even reproducing more offspring with other woman as well. So can we say this is based on purely thoughts that came from culture in which one has been brought up? In the west we generally choose to live a monogamous life. Why did we choose for this, if our instincts do not work this way? The human being has chosen to be monogamous because it gives more certainty and therefor has more value in creating a relationship. Also it is given more respect within society to do so, it gives a more secure and serious feel to a relationship. So if you are being monogamous you are doing good and you are being responsible, if you are not monogamous then it is thought you are not very serious with life and cannot build a steady relationship and certainly not with children. So can we talk about love within this? As far as i noticed it is purely driven by primal instincts and monogamy is merly based on thoughts we created. But for the offspring we know there has to be a loving mother in the first place and loving people that surround the mother and child. Or is it evolution and we found out that it is good for children to have a father that is concerned and engaged with there children's life?
So, if the energy of lust is in the core not concerned with offspring itself, than lust can be reduced to only a force of animal instinctive transmission of genetic material that is only concerned with spreading as much of this genetic material as possible so you create a larger empire from your genetic material.
Why is it that man can produce new offspring every day while the creation of a new born needs nine months?
What about the feeling of lust within woman, which is mainly present around ovulation, this must only be for producing new offspring. But still after having several offspring the feeling of lust will be present although it is proven to get less after menopause in most cases. So lust is only a given physical potential that can be used between given time.
Thats why the urge for having offspring is between a certain period of ones life. The other thing is the difference that is there between man and woman. The drive for having children is much bigger for woman then it is for men.
What is this love?
Love is the energy that cares for the other without the thought "i have to love", in other words it is acting without thought applied in it's act. It's a natural universal instinct. In the core of the LOVE energy the feeling that one wants to care for someone in need of care. It is a universal feeling and it is the same feeling wether it is your husband or wife, friend, relative or even someone you don't know. So i would like to suggest that love is a word we turned into something to big and placed out of it's context.
And that is the feeling of oneness is the feeling of caring for each other.
The only thing that is different is the thoughts and ideas that we apply upon helping others that makes it hard to act
It's the duality that is created with these thoughts that creates a negative feeling when helping someone you don't know and a feeling of pressure if people want you to help someone you do know. Duality creates a distance and closure. For love to work in full there has to be openness or a feeling of synchronicity so energy can flow through more than one being.
The real "love" is situated before thought and should come natural.
So, as i see it lust is something that is a energy within love. As love, like stated above, is the base feeling of life itself… If so is this energy present in our lives for more then just making offspring?
Can lust be a way to experience love at the center of our being for a brief moment and is that why we like this experience because it brings us closer to the essence of life? Isn't it so after having sex the expansion of the mind and the rest it gives feels hugh in that moment there is nothing else than that and the person with whom it is experienced with. It is when thoughts come back from our everyday life like doing the laundry or the shopping list the feeling disappears and we are back in to our daily things.